“If you haven’t, you’re a prude. If you have, you’re a slut. It’s a trap.”
Settling feels like an art form. There are so many moving parts to choosing another person, and we are constantly expanding the list of “things we can live without.” I used to have such complex, detailed dreams about the kind of man I would spend my life with. And then, little by little, he got whittled away by reality, and he became a vague shape of a person with a few basic qualities. I learned to settle like a champion, like a woman much older and more embittered by history than myself. It was key to survival without crippling disappointment.
But, after multiple relationships with men who felt like the physical incarnation of ‘settling’ itself, I have decided to wait. I’ve decided to embrace and enjoy and even revel in my singlehood and never force something to go past a disappointing first date. I’m not taking relationships at all costs…
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Around the world, about 39 million people are blind and roughly 6 times that many have some kind of vision impairment.
Everything takes me back to ballet. Tears, smiles, ballet. I am in no way a prima ballerina, but I know the ballet world. It’s cruel, rigorous, and shatters millions of dreams. When going to see ballet you see exquisite plies, red lips, perfect hair, beautiful tutus, and stunning woman. You don’t see hours and hours of rehearsal, bloody feet, eating disorders, shrieks from ballet directors, and most of all, the need to be perfect. Because that defines ballet. The perfect dancer, with the perfect body, the perfect technique, the perfect pointed toes, and the perfect Arabesque. One mistake and your fourteen-year love is gone. For the lucky ones they get a couple years in the spotlight, dancing Cinderella in front of hundreds. Then they turn thirty and are kicked out on their ass with nothing but broken feet and a broken dream. For some a couple “glorious” years are enough to make something of their selves. For most it’s a new beginning, a time to figure out a new future, that’s not based in a studio.